In this episode I talk with Kari Lu Cowell, not only about non-monogamy, but soulmates, monogamous conditioning, whether or not you should start your non-monogamous relationship in the beginning of your relationship or if you should build a monogamous foundation first, and so much more! Kari Lu Cowell is a Dating Coach for Nerds. She helps people feel authentically comfortable and confident with dating so they can find the relationships of their dreams. She works with all relationship desires, specializing in people who seek non-traditional relationships like kink, BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, Sugar Daddy/sugar baby, etc. Having dabbled in all of those things for the past two decades, Kari leads with an open heart and an open mind. With her background in therapy and trauma informed wellness, along with her core value of play, Kari brings a unique mix of mindfulness, psychology, and fun to all of her teachings. Outside of her coaching, Kari loves reading, axe throwing, pole dancing, Doctor Who, connecting with others, and her dog Beau. Bullet points of key topics & time stamps: 2:30- Labels8:35- Ethical Non-Monogamy13:37- Jealousy20:43- Monogamy as a Foundation28:58- NRE and Balancing Partners Needs34:01- Opening Up Sexually35:57- Social Perceptions37:42- Threesomes41:48- Relationship Dynamics and Communication45:47- Kari’s CoachingList of resources mentioned in episode: ? Polysecure by Jessica Fern ? Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller TO-DO ? Stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia by getting on the list here ? Find Us Online - Website: - - Credits - Host/Producer: Ellecia Paine - Editor/Producer: Danny Walters - Hosted on Buzzsprout About Us Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny.