Today, I talk with Deana Tanner about the five main pillars of polyamory: autonomy, personal responsibility, boundaries, effective communication and understanding emotions. We talk about growing up polyamorous, creating healthy relationships, and how to identify what you really want to make informed decisions. Deana Tanner has taken her 20 years of experience in leadership education and converted it to real world personal growth and development coaching for the queer and polyamorous communities. After starting out her marriage in a form of non-monogamy and radically progressing to full blow polyamory she became keenly aware of not just the lack of healthy relationship standards in the polyamorous and queer communities, but a serious lack of polyamory and queer informed professional services. She firmly maintains that the skills she uses with her clients is merely just the shit we should have learned in school. ?? TLDR; 5:29- Kitchen-table Polyamory10:10- The Role of Resiliency in Relationships14:10- Stepping out of the Monogamy Box18:46- Jealousy and Tools for Coping26:26- Creating Healthy Relationships32:39- Learning What You Really Want37:59- Pillars of Polyamory?? Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note.