We're talking all about jealousy in non monogamy and how to process all these really hard complicated feelings and move through them without blowing up your relationships. My dear friend Wilder is joining me today and you might remember her from episode four of Nope, We're Not Monogamous, Wilder is in a closed triad with a married couple and gets to experience all of these feelings of essentially being the third person in an established relationship and moves through it so beautifully. She is sharing a lot of the ways that she's done that and I share a lot of my own experiences of being someone who is in a marriage that brought more people into it and the feelings of jealousy from that side. ?? TLDR; 2:18- Using Jealousy as a Stopping Point7:13- Jealousy as Passion11:42- Owning Your Jealousy22:16- Finding Your Best Self28:13- Whose Hurting Who?31:57- Naming Your Needs38:59- Expectations are Resentments in the Making48:19- Tools for Jealousy?? Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. Resources we mentioned... the video that includes the history of monogamy is here.