Episode :
114Tantra, Throuples, and the Best Sex of Her Life at 65 with Xanet Pailet
What happens when you go from 26 years in a sexless marriage… to a full-blown sexual awakening in your 50s? This week, I’m joined by Xanet Pailet — a former healthcare lawyer turned tantra teacher, somatic sex coach, and the author of Living an Orgasmic Life. We’re talking about: How she went from disconnected and dissociated… to having the best sex of her life in her 60sWhy pleasure is your birthright (and what to do if that feels impossible right now)Why communication matters more than rules — and what healthy sex agreements can actually look likeHow trauma, disconnection, and shame keep people stuck in unsatisfying sex livesXanet’s year-long throuple experience (including a very helpful metamour ??)How to figure out what you want in non-monogamy, even if it’s not what your partner wantsWhat to do when pleasure feels really far awayIf you’ve ever felt broken, stuck, or too late for good sex and real intimacy — this one is gonna hit. There’s so much wisdom here for midlife lovers, non-monogamous folks, and anyone healing their relationship to pleasure.