What if midlife wasn’t the decline everyone warns you about, but a second spring? In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I sit down with Carla Wainwright, Holistic Wellness Coach, Sexual Awakening Facilitator, and self-proclaimed Midlife Alchemist. We talk about what really happens to women’s desire, relationships, and identity in midlife, and how it all ties into exploring non-monogamy, polyamory, and rewriting the love scripts we didn’t ask for. Carla shares why: ?? Desire evolves with us (and midlife is often when it finally gets honest)?? Communication has to start with the nervous system, not just words?? Boundaries get sharper as we age, and that’s actually freedom?? Pleasure isn’t optional; it’s medicine for hormones, libido, and vitalityWe also get real about: ?? What non-monogamy looks like in midlife ?? Why menopause can actually increase desire and sexual energy ?? How pleasure and presence help regulate hormones and deepen connection ?? Why this stage of life is a portal into power, clarity, and turn-on If you ever think, “I don’t know what I want, but I know it isn’t this,” this conversation will remind you: you’re not broken, you were born lovable, and you get to want what you want. ?? Don’t miss Carla’s Just the Tip segment, available exclusively on at Become a friend with benefits and get access to the spicier stuff.