If you’ve been feeling resentful in your open relationship, this episode is for you. In Episode 147 of Nope, We’re Not Monogamous, I break down why resentment in non-monogamy is rarely about jealousy or bad communication. It’s usually about boundaries. Specifically: The boundary you didn’t setThe boundary you didn’t enforceOr the agreement your body never truly consented toSo many people in ethical non-monogamy confuse boundaries with rules, agreements, or ultimatums. When that happens, resentment builds quietly under the surface. In this episode, we explore the difference between: Personal boundaries and relationship agreementsBoundaries and ultimatumsAutonomy and self-abandonmentIf you’ve ever tried to be the “cool partner,” agreed to something you weren’t actually okay with, or said “I’m fine” when you weren’t… this conversation will help you see what resentment is really pointing to. Because resentment isn’t random. It’s information. And it might be telling you it’s time to stop bulldozing yourself in the name of being evolved. ?? In This Episode We Cover: Why resentment in polyamory often signals self-betrayalHow confusing agreements with boundaries creates conflictThe difference between boundaries and ultimatums in ENMWhy enforcement is about your participation, not controlThe master question to ask when evaluating compatibilityHow to rebuild self-trust after boundary collapseWant to Go Deeper?