Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly? Jacqueline revisits a conversation with Effy about how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion. They share their tips for how to assess what you are craving and figure out how to deal with the discomfort and fill the gaps. Book: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy You can find the Fuel Gauge Activity worksheet mentioned in this episode here.