Tuesday Talks: Grower, Not a Shower — Cock Confidence in the Lifestyle Episode 89 In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy dive into another “Tuesday Talks” listener question — this time from a male listener who’s struggling to connect with women at clubs and resorts. He shares that he feels confident once things progress, but worries he’s being judged too quickly because he’s a grower, not a shower, and his softer size doesn’t reflect his fully aroused size. He’s concerned it’s costing him potential connections before he ever gets the chance to build chemistry. Dan and Lacy talk about the pressure men can feel in lifestyle spaces, how confidence and energy matter more than anatomy. If you’ve ever felt insecure or overlooked in the lifestyle, this episode is full of real talk and practical advice to help you show up with confidence.