A cute li'l gal worries she just isn't a very convincing dom. How can she use psychology to establish her sexy top role? A newly out pan man is ready to dive into gay culture. But he isn't quite ready to shave his pubes! Does he have to? On the Magnum, Dan chats with novelist and television writer Kashana Cauley. (Author of The Payback and The Survivalists.) They talk about the pleasure of dystopian novels in a dystopian present, on being a clotheshorse, the student debt crisis, setting boundaries in kink and more! A very androgynous AFAB person has a ton of pull with both men and women. But they are new to the gay cruising scene and want some tips on navigating those entrancing homo spaces. Q@Savage. Love. Go to or type “Savage” into the search bar for private VIP access to deals that are too good to announce on this podcast! For a limited time, our listeners get a SuperPower membership for just $199. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From body hair to birth control, asexuality to auto-erotic asphyxiation and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.