A man's 80 year-old father is getting scammed and extorted by a findom. Should he go to the police? Change his account numbers? See a marriage counselor? A gay man in his 20s looks very young. He worries that the men who are attracted to him may be skeezy because he looks more like a boy than a man. His friends tell him to work it. But how can he safely enjoy New York City's gay dating scene? On the Magnum, a concerned mom wonders how to steer her teenaged kids toward ethical porn. We couldn't think of a better guest to bring on than Erika Lust- she's been making beautifully shot, thoughtful, sexy porn for 20 years. She and Dan talked about dealing with porn as a parent, how much porn is too much porn, and how adult content should NOT be in the hands of tech bros. Finally, is it a consent violation to walk the streets with come visibly on your face? It's a yes or no question. Q@Savage. Start your free online visit today at Go to or type “Savage” into the search bar for private VIP access to deals that are too good to announce on this podcast! It’s a book on how to do poly better. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, obituary aficionado and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Bringing you the ups and downs and ins and outs of sex (with a dose of progressive politics,) since the ink dried on the Louisiana Purchase.