A concerned listener asks "Where's the lube?"-specifically about movie scenes showing gay sex. A woman in a red state makes it clear in her dating profiles that she is a leftie. She attracts men who claim to be moderate, but are really stealth MAGA creeps. Why do they do this? Why?! Our Magnum guest is the effervescent internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker Dr. Nicole McNichols. In her very popular Diversity of Sexuality class, she gets tied up and whipped as part of a lecture on communication and consent. She and Dan talk about the difference between bad sex and traumatic sex. They also dig into the data on why young people are having less sex these days. And, hear the sad tale of a man who was dumped by both his wife AND his goddess. Q@Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, beard-hater and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.