When Sex Feels Forced: Hook-up Culture and Cuddle Boners
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When Sex Feels Forced: Hook-up Culture and Cuddle Boners

October 07, 2015

Sex can feel like such a chore! Claire and I discuss the different ways people feel pressured by today's hook-up culture to have a lot of sex. It's not that sex isn't awesome and that we don't want to have it, but sometimes you get a little burnt out. It's okay to take a break from your boning bacchanalia! It doesn't make you an uptight prude. Tinder, dating tips and what to do with that cuddling erection are also covered on an intimate Manwhore Podcast.

Claire comes on the podcast this week to give me some closure about our 2013 tryst. After two dreamy dates she mysteriously ended things. Her past trauma combind with my overeagerness put her off of dating me. Listen to us chat about giving someone their space and why scheduling a text in your iCal isn't always the smoothest move. Speaking of giving her space: what to do with your spooning boner!

The current hook-up culture is the outcome of a growingly sex-positive society. This is fantastic! The consequence of this is that those who don't care to have a lot of sex feel a silent societal pressure to have a lot of sex. There's almost a sense of "vanilla-shaming" where if you're not kinky and not f*cking a bunch of people, then you must be a prude, uptight, inhibited and sex-negative. This is not the case. There are asexual people, who don't feel sexual desire. There are those who prefer an emotional connection before getting physical (which some would call 'demisexuality' and what I would call a preference). Claire and I both share how this rampant sexual energy in American has caused us to have some sex that we maybe didn't need to have. It's great that pleasurable sex outside of wedlock is (slowly) becoming less taboo and more acceptable. We just have to pracice the same mentality towards the more prudent that we originally asked of them: do your thing and don't mind me doing mine.