Being gay isn’t easy. It’s even harder when you’re dating a straight girl unsure of her identity. Actress and podcaster Lauren Flans looks back on her last meaningful relationship, which happened to be with one of these “straight” women. Flans feels ‘forever single’ and uncomfortable with online dating. The Coming Out host talks about dating and coming out and who the young queer kids she teaches workshops to know more about queerness than she does. ALSO: a big ol’ rant on herpes.

PLUS: coming out to your parents, labels, just friends, queer, and a special offer!